Thursday, 19 March 2009

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  Top 5 NO - NOs to avoid Love v/s Friendship Battles

  Well many of my friends are in relationships now. And many of them have broken up. One of my friends Chinlu (carpe_diem99 on xanga) hasn't really broken up but her bf's going far away to study and the poor girl is going through a tough time. I just hate to see that. But many people lose their closest friends after they get into relationships because of some mistakes they don't notice. Here - take a look -

  1. Reducing the time you spend with your pals - They should never feel ignored and get the impression that it's just because of that 'stupid relationship' or that 'stupid guy/girl'. Even if you have to cut your time with them, make sure it should not be very much and the most important thing is - give them the same quality time you gave them before your bf/gf came into ur life. And yes, NEVER should you cancel plans with ur chums just to spend some time with 'him/her'. 

  2. Calling/texting when u r with them - I went to a friend's place for a sleepover and since I 'understood' she was talking to her bf for like the whole night, talking about him all night and texting him the whole night! Like there wasn't anything in the world but her bf! Like what the f***! I think I would have enjoyed that only if I had 'short - term memory loss' problem. It kinda ruined everything! And so what if I understood everything? Does that give her a right to make me feel ignored like that? The truth is, no matter how much your friend understands, it still hurts. So STOP IT or else you'll have to pay.

  3. The non-stop 'record' - As I said in #2 my friend ruined our sleepover by playing her tape the whole night - non-stop! The next morning I clearly told her that if she were to come to my place, she'd better switch her cell off/ leave it at home or else I'll have to throw it away. I know that was intimidating, but hell yeah that served my purpose of making her understand. Just assume that your closest pal is with you and she keeps on chattering about 'him' all the time. Won't you cringe? And what's worse - they indirectly make you feel that being single sucks (which of course, is totally false - it rocks!) and that there's nothing more in their world but their bf/gf! Ugh! How gruelling is that! And if they do it when they're standing in a group, it only brings them insult and mockery. 

  4. Trusting ur bf/gf over ur pals - That's the worst insult one could do to friendship. This is the biggest NO - NO I can think of. If my friend did that to me, I'd kick his/her butt and never talk to him again! I mean how can one just tell his/her friends that they are lying and he/she is right? If you don't know who to trust, just keep shut! Act diplomatic - that would help you. Investigate properly without showing the slightlest lack of trust in any party. When you have reached your decision, make you have enough proof and questions to ask.    

  5. Break - up!?!?! The CRY BABY - Break - ups sure are very painful to deal with and I'm not saying you shouldn't cry your heart out or talk about it to ur pals. But make sure that you move on. The sooner the better. Your friends would console you 1 day, 2 days, 3 days, 4 days... But if you just don't seem to feel better, not only would they feel bad about themselves, they'll be frustrated because of it and it might lead to breaking bonds... So get up and move on before it's too late. No1 likes cry babies who never stop whining.

  Friendships are very important. Friends are the people you used to cry with when u were single and they will be your support when he/she leaves you (god forbid). Love and Friendship have places of their own and it's better to make a proper balace between the two. I hope these no - nos helped you.l

  Do you have any more no-nos? If yes, what?

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